Once you acknowledge to yourself that there are areas of your life that you are dissatisfied with, even if you don’t know what to do to fix them,  you have started your journey to competence… and yes.. it starts with admitting that you may not be too competent right now. That’s the exciting part though.. once you admit the truth to yourself, you can  begin on the journey to gaining competence through growth, learning, loving and being open to the world around you.

As you begin to gain more knowledge you may begin to feel overwhelmed by all there is to learn and know, you become more conscious of your incompetence at this time and that can be a little mind-boggling. Don’t fret though… it’s part of the process.. stay committed and keep on pressing through. You deserve it! Have a little faith in yourself and your ability to learn and grow and you will persevere. You will being to understand just where the problems are in your life and you will begin to learn what you can do to over come them.

With time your competence will grow. You will be conscious of what you know and how to correct the problems you are facing. This is a little daunting because it takes focused mental effort… just like when you first start riding a bicycle. You need to focus on every move to make sure you stay the course. It’s ok though because you know you are on the right track and if you hit a road bump, you know how to get up and back on track in the direction you want to go.

Soon enough, you will be riding with no hands!! You will have attained a level of competence where your new skills come effortlessly. You have just achieved competence in what ever endeavor you selected and are on your way to living the life you want to create.

Remember, it’s all about choices. You have the ability to be the author of  your own life, when you are ready to make the choices to pick up the pen you can then choose to have competence in any area. All it takes is a commitment to yourself and the tenacity to stay the course!

You are worth it!

No matter… regardless if it’s have tos, need tos or shoulds the result is the same. We spend our days feeling as if we have done something wrong or are going to do something wrong. Ever stop to think about just who decided that we should do these things? Where did those beliefs originate? And further, why is it that we make it a  habit of carrying these beliefs with us to torment ourselves with?  We set ourselves up to feel BAD.. to feel like victims of our circumstances. We place outside of us the expectations on which we base our lives. And on most days, at the end of the day there’s not much to be grateful for other than that the day has passed.

Now, let’s just assume for a minute that we no longer had the option of using the words, I have to, I should or I need to… let’s say we had the words “I could.. if I wanted to do it, I could…” how do you think that would change things?

Well, let’s look… If I wanted to, I could clean the house… hmmm.. If I wanted to I could go to the gym… ok, not bad… If I wanted to I could eat better… If I wanted to I could balance the check book… wow… empowering and yet a little intimidating at the same time.. no, we can’t put the blame on anyone else any more but with one little switch the power to create our own reality is in our hands. We now have choices!! 

Making choices is what life is about!!

If you still can’t seem to get the things done that you have decided you would like to get done then take a closer look within yourself.. you’ll find the answer if you just listen to your heart.

The choice is yours… make the choice to set yourself free & celebrate life!